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Journal 2025.07.26: Guilt and Selfishness

“It’s ok, no matter what happens.” they tell me, but I fear for them anyway. Their logic, reason, and emotional intelligence is some of the most powerful I’ve ever seen. I fear for them — their potential disappointment, sadness, loneliness, heartbreak — they act like their shields are all securely in place but I sense joints in their defenses where pain can seep through. 

Gentle Steps

Your fading presence will one day leave a hole in my life I’m not sure I could fill again. 

You walk through my life with gentle steps, in shoes none other can fit.

One day the footsteps will become quieter. I’ll strain to hear them, and a sad echo will surround each distant tap.

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July 12, 2025

(Reflections on a friend and predicted futures.)

On platonic soulmates and fear of loss 

Some friends are closer than others. Supposedly, so-called “soulmates” (people often only use that word in the context of romance and sex, but that’s not the only application of the term) can come in various forms, including friends and even family —  I’ve been learning about the concept of “platonic soulmates”, where people have a very close bond with a friend for which there is zero romantic interest or sexual attraction. These are supposedly the friends you can truly be yourself around, who actually, honestly accept you; who you may have a great emotional intimacy with; who are there for you through just about anything imaginable; who help you really discover who you are, both good and bad. They bring so much benefit into your life, and with less up-and-down volatility (better word??) than can come with relationships of a romantic nature. 

I can think of very few people who have come close to this throughout my life…

But I think I may have found one now, and I’m as terrified of losing it as I am grateful to have it.

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